Conflict Resolution (and more)

Now, this is interesting. (I find it so, anyway, and as I’m the blogger. . .)

I was talking to my brother yesterday. Poor man, is suffering in boredom because he had knee surgery and can’t do anything and is basically stuck at home. That’s great for me, as it makes him very willing to talk when I call! ūüėČ

So, in the process of our talk, I mentioned that¬†Drew has been doing something I’m just in awe of.

¬†When¬†Drew is playing basketball with others, if they start cursing, he leaves the court. Just ups and leaves. He does this, because he simply doesn’t want to associate with those that curse.

I think that is fantastic! Shoot, when I was a kid his age, I would have been cursing just to fit in, even if I felt bad doing it.

Anyway, that caused my brother to mention that he thought that he and I had not been taught “conflict resolution” very well. (To be perfectly honest, I don’t recall many conflicts in the house. . .so I don’t know how it could have been taught that way.)

To that end, let me tell you, I remember my Mom telling me many a time, if you ignore it long enough, it will go away.

Yes, well when I first met Jay, I tried really hard to ignore him!

See Mom!

It just goes to show, that I am horrible at ignoring things!

I would say that overall I am terrible at conflict resolution. In fact, I am particularly bad at conflict, period.

But, my brother is right in that there must be a way to resolve issues. There has to be a way to do it without shaming another person. . .This is something that I need to ponder on a bit.

But, I will say this, I’m still in awe of how¬†Drew is choosing to remain true to himself. I find that incredibly impressive and mature.
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This morning I found a “present” on my front porch. Discovered it when I opened the blinds.

Poop.

In fact, I believe it was fox poop. We have two in our neighborhood, one is mangy looking and one is “new” to the neighborhood and he looks quite fine for a fox.

I’m thinking it was the mangy one that decided to take a gander onto my front porch and relieve himself there.

There was worms all in that dung also! BLECH!

So, I spent some time picking that up and then bleaching my front porch. I was so disgusted!

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Was able to speak to¬†Jay today. He made through the second leg of his journey. It was a short phone call, but the little guys got to say “hi” too.

I tell you, I love email! I can write him and have a response “shortly”.

Man! We’ve been in this life so long. . .I remember when almost all communication was snail mail! Trust me, I’m feeling no nostalgia for those days!

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The older two went to a “teen night” tonight. It’s a weekly summertime event. They didn’t get back home till almost 2230, and to show what a regimented drill sergeant (“panicky mom”, maybe) I am, I was having fits! Their bedtime is 2130!

I think they had a good time, but they were tired and after walking the dog, went straight to bed.

It is now time for me to hit the hay also. Way past my bedtime, and I need all the beauty sleep I can get! 

Maybe not so much for “beauty” but to tackle a day filled with boyish activity. . .

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